Blame Game

As I was going on a nostalgic trip reading stuffs in my old diary – feeling amused at the weird handwriting I had back then, grinning at the was-hilarious-then-but-not-so-much-now jokes,slightly embarrassed by the ‘Hi Diary’ salutation,I came across the following creative piece  which I wrote for my college’s editorial.

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Since childhood, we learn to play many games—both outdoor and indoor. But a game that is played since times immemorial and has become a legacy of the human race is the BLAME GAME. And the most interesting part of this game is that although we do not learn it consciously, we use it- rather play it- very often in our day to day lives.The history of this game dates back to the time when Adam and Eve, the first man and woman, sinned in the Garden of Eden. They tried to excuse themselves by placing the blame somewhere else. Since then, it has been in our blood to blame others and shift the responsibility on someone else. A political leader blaming another for the weary state the country is in today, a boss blaming his employees for failure of a project, an actor blaming the script for the failure of a movie-these are common scenarios now-a-days. People are busy finding external reasons for their unhappiness or frustration. We fail to realize that we ourselves are so much a part of this………….Coming to the rules of the game…..

  • This game can be played when there is a situation of – failure, dissatisfaction, and frustration – especially applicable in case of team work. It can be played at all levels- individual, national, and even international…
  • The sole motive of this game is to shift the responsibility to others and to keep oneself free of guilt – whoever does that brilliantly is declared the winner.
  • The player should keep in mind that he is the sole sufferer and is always right….
  • “Destiny” can be used in case the player is not able to put the blame on anyone else.
  • Everything is fair in this game of blaming……

BUT Does it satisfy one’s conscience???

Does it alleviate the situation or help in solving the problem???

IS IT REALLY WORTH ????

My answer and experience says an emphatic no… Its sole contribution is to worsen the already-worsened situation. I do not intend to conclude that highlighting people’s mistakes is wrong. In fact, sometimes it is required and is the right thing to do. But when people do it with the motive of publicly humiliating the “wrong guy” rather than encouraging others to learn from the mistakes, it serves no purpose. Many a times, destiny has to take the blame. It sounds clichéd but true -“We write our own destiny”. I read the story of a saint who used to carry a mirror with himself wherever he went. When asked about its use for a saint, he replied “whenever I face any problem in my life, I look at it. It shows me the cause as well as the solution of the problem….”.That for me was a huge realization. It is rightly said – “Making bad decisions is part of life. Blaming others for your bad decisions is immature.”

We start living our life in its true essence the day we realize that we are solely responsible for its quality. No matter what happens in life, we just cannot sit back and blame someone else for our miseries. If we are not happy, it is because we have not tried to be happy. There is solution for every problem in this world- if not in our hand, then probably in the hands of TIME. But one has to take charge of one’s life. And the day each one of us take up the responsibility of making oneself  happy & content, and one’s life worth living, the world will become a better place.

– Amateur

To Win OR To Win Fairly

Jamaica's Yohan Blake, second left, starts in a men's 100-meter heat during the athletics in the Olympic Stadium at the 2012 Summer Olympics, London, Saturday, Aug. 4, 2012. (AP Photo/Matt Slocum)

 

Prayer of a Sportsman

Dear Lord, in the battle that goes on through life
I ask but a field that is fair,
A chance that is equal with all in the strife,
A courage to strive and to dare;

And if should win, let it be by the code
With my faith and my honor held high;
And if I should lose, let me stand by the road,
And cheer as the winners go by.

-Berton Braley

Although the above excerpt from Berton’s creation bears the heading ‘ Prayers of a Sportsman’ , but you don’t have to be a sportsman to keep this thought in your heart, for every human being on this planet is a participant of a race – a race to succeed in life, to achieve what one dreams ,a continuous effort to prove oneself superior than others, a race which goes on till our last breath – In that way , we all are sportsmen , aren’t we?

Nowadays, people are so busy with their respective races, that they often forget the rules and the sportsman spirit which is necessary to keep the competition fair and humane. The focus is only on winning, rather than winning fairly. Only the ultimate results matter. But there is one question that needs to be answered. Will the person gazing back at us from the mirror be happy and content with us winning the race at any cost ignoring the fairness of the game? Will he be happy seeing the trophy even if we know that somebody else deserves it more?

In modern day scenario, one can’t help but ponder on Berton’s lines to realize how precisely he has sketched an honorable sportsman’s character– he wants to win but only when he deserves it, else he asks for enough strength so that he is able to forget his own defeat and revel in winner’s celebration. That’s a sportsman’s glory, his triumph and his legacy that will inspire millions after him.

Hence, the choice is simple- to win OR to win fairly. The answer lies nowhere but within us.

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Attitude towards life

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If you can’t be a highway, then just be a trail,

If you can’t be the sun, then just be the star,

It isn’t by the size that you win or fail,

But be the best of whatever you are.

– Douglas Malloch

The above excerpt from Douglas Malloch’s inspirational piece exactly defines the attitude one should have in life. The lines reiterate perfection in its own sense. Whether you are a giant business tycoon or a run-of-the-mill salesman, whether you are a celebrity or a street play actor, a computer genius working in a multinational company or a mechanic, a celebrated artist or a construction worker- the size does’nt matter. What matters is how you play your role to perfection. It is rightly said ,”Do your work so perfectly, that others do not have any work on your work.”

For all the pessimists out there, this does’nt mean that you should settle for something less in life. You should constantly strive to achieve more and more and fulfill every dream you have. But then, be the best dreamer you can be. Dream with conviction. Be the best struggler you can be. Struggle to zenith and don’t stop until you get exactly what you dreamt of. Be the best achiever you can be. Play every role you have in life to the best of your ability.

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