When has anything happened in your life according to YOUR plan or expectation? Well, in my case, everything in my life has happened in contrast to what I planned for. There is clearly a higher entity at work playing with all our minds.
Now – we, the pawns, are left with two choices – either to cry over every spilt ‘plans’ that has not turned out the way we expected, or to embrace the surprise turn of events with open arms. The latter would be an obvious choice. But it is not always easy for everyone to adjust to circumstances and throw disappointment to the wind. Each one of us has certain expectations from oneself, family, friends, beloved, relationships, career and life at large. We come across many instances where disappointment has been caused by failure of meeting expectations-be it the setting of a career or a failed relationship. Each one of us beams with joy when things turn out the way we want them too. It is an accomplishment. We get disappointed equally soon in contrast situations.
But when you look back, you realize that whatever happened – happened for a greater good.
You see, the higher entity, about whom I mentioned earlier, is not one of the nefarious criminal of a dark movie, who seeks hedonist pleasure in watching his victims suffer. He is our creator and we are not his pawns. For His Sake, We are his children! Have you ever come across a sadist mother playing dirty, manipulative tricks with her child? He has a larger picture in mind – a greater good for you. In his Universe, everything is in place and under control. You just have to sit back and gape in amazement at his wonders.
Expectations often mar the vitality & the beauty of any relationship. Two DNAs are different to the core. How can you expect the entire human being to be on the same page with you at every occasion? Difference in thoughts is pretty normal. The fact that he did not react the way you expected him to should not dishearten you. There should be an understanding of differences with all expectations dumped into trash.
To free ourselves from the chains of expectations and surrender to the higher power is not a day’s job. By surrendering, I do not imply that we stop doing anything about anything. By surrendering I mean, you do your best but have no expectations. You give your best to your family. Be the best friend to your coterie. Give your 100% to your work, relationships, life but there is a condition – You should have no expectations. Many people have denounced their social life in a quest for the secret of happiness in this world. I say, the secret is to have no expectations – not from anybody, not from life. Be prepared for the worst turn of events. In that case, you will not be saddened and discouraged when things do not happen as you planned, and when things do happen like you wished – you have a significant reason to rejoice!
Give your best to the world but don’t worry yourself over what will come back to you.
Sooner or later, whatever is destined to be yours will be yours!