Success is Useless

Yeah, you read it right ! 

At least that’s what I believe.

But before putting forward my arguments and letting you decide whether it holds water or not, I would put a disclaimer – making this statement is not sour grapes for me – I have had my share of successes  and failures in life and this statement is not a manifestation of my personal emotions or grudge. It is a conclusion based on careful and deep introspection, and not simply a desultory comment.

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Having said that, now there must be a tinkling in your mind – how can success be useless? After all, our entire life is spent in making efforts to lead a successful life – and hence a happy one. Every soul on this planet craves for success not only in professional life, but also in personal relationships, new ventures, family life etc.  It is on what our life is based – and here comes some random blogger who is questioning the foundation of your life ! Well, success is equally important for that random blogger. She also wants to be a successful blogger, a successful family person and a successful professional.

So how is it useless if it is important?

I never doubted the importance of success – but the utility of it – and there is a difference – a big difference. Because from where I see, I see success only as the food for life and not the food for soul. Success repays your hard work, gives you moments of happiness and revelry, satisfies your ego and enhances you self-respect. 

What lesson does it give you? How does it influence your mind, your nature, your personality – in most cases it either makes you complacent or haughty, or just languid ! In other cases, we become increasingly insecure of losing it. After achieving success in one arena, you move on to the other. I don’t  remember sitting down to retrospect on what I had learnt or what more I could learn in a field, how can I improve and so on whenever I succeeded in anything. I simply moved on to the next level – which is necessary because you got to keep moving ahead,always. But apart from that, what did one truly learn about life?  

Very little, or nada.

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On the other hand, when you fail, you learn what does not work – it gives you knowledge and wisdom. It gives you an opportunity to prove to others and to yourself how strong you are and how quickly you can get back in action after every fall. Whenever someone falls, he has to pick his pieces up and get back up on his own.  Every failure you face in life adds to your courage and inner strength – leaving you more bold than you previously were. It teaches you to be optimistic because believe me – no matter how much pessimism a person has, everybody wants to and does see the light at the end of every dark tunnel. It is just a matter of time – how early one gets over one’s doubts and incertitude. With every failure, that time period decreases – and you tend to get back faster into the game with revived energy and enthusiasm ! Failure teaches you a good sense of humor too–how to laugh the predicament  off and start afresh.

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The problem with failure is that it is always projected in bad light. Right from  childhood, we are taught to embrace success and cast aside failure. And that’s why when I projected success in a bad light – it must have been shocking for many.

Failure is not bad. It is not synonymous with darkness or evil.

In fact, it teaches about life more than success does. Failure is not something to be afraid of ; it does not eat you ; it does not leave you crumpled– but every time it comes, it gives a piece of itself to you – in the form of courage or optimism or sense of humor.

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As Sundar Pichai , CEO, Google rightly said “In Silicon Valley, part of the reason why so many people start companies is because even if you fail, it is a badge of honour.

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Failure does not and should not leave us with depressing thoughts and doubts on our capability. As proudly as we proclaim our success, we should equally embrace our failure. Because when the candle  of  our life will be on the verge of dying down, we will realize while going down the memory lane  that failure was always on our side. We were never fighting it, we were fighting WITH it – to achieve success.

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Light up ! It’s Christmas !

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      Light up your lives this festive season , expel the darkness  away !

               There is so much beauty in the world to be seen and felt ! 

       Darkness won’t let you – both of the world and of your mind !

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DIY – A candle holder from a cold drink can

Despite of having a full time technical profession, my creative side yearns to come out every now and then, sometimes in the form of words or rhythm – and most of the times -through ART. It is an irony that I have been sharing the least frequent manifestations of my creative side, and not sharing the more frequently happening outbursts!

But that could have not been the case for a long time, and that’s exactly why I am here –  introducing a new section altogether – another small endeavor in my blogger’s cap –‘DIY (Do-It-Yourself)’ wherein I will be sharing the shenanigans my ‘less-technical-more-creative’ mind is upto! Recycling waste materials present at home and creating out of it an art with visual appeal is something that intrigues me and can keep me occupied for days on end without letting even an iota of boredom touch me. My favorite area in DIY is lighting. I love lighting up a place with different colors of light, aromatic candles etc. Wall art is another area of interest.

For the first post, I will sharing my method of converting a used cold drink can into something useful – in my case – a hanging candle holder. It is a very easy DIY and can be done with materials already present at your home. In case a can is not available, plastic bottles can also be used.

Materials Required:

  1. Used Cold drink Can or used plastic bottle
  2. Fabric Paint
  3. Glitter Powder
  4. Scissors/Pen Knife
  5. Ribbon
  6. Glue,Marker
  1. Mark the can to cut it into two halves – Precision is not required.

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2.Using scissors or pen knife cut the can into two halves – Please be cautious at this step.

3. Make random holes in the can which will let the candle light to seep through.

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4. Make two holes opposite to each other at the top of the can to tie the ribbon which can be used to hang the holder.

5. Paint the can with colors of your choice.

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6. After the paint  dries, apply glue on the can and stick the glitter powder to give a glossy finish.

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7. After the glitters have dried, tie the ribbon , place the candle inside the can, light it and hang it.

I used rasberry aromatic candles – they are so good !

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And the final product looks something like this !

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Suits the festive season ! 🙂

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Reminiscences of the past

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These little  reminiscences of the time spent with you still adorn the pages of my life !

The freshness of the petals is ephemeral, but that of the memories is eternal.  

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Walk a mile in my shoes

 

 

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To all the people, who judge me before knowing my story, I say

“ Walk a mile in my shoes ! Then only will you know.”

“It isn’t as easy as you would have probably thought! “

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