“Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.”
Suicide is the aftermath of a long struggle with failure, depression, heart-break or ignominy. It is anti- God – a demon, hell bent to destroy God’s beautiful creation, creeps into a disheartened mind – lures it to kick the bucket, in order to destroy the pain. But does Suicide’s Grim Reaper prefer males to females? Is it gender biased ? Otherwise, what else could explain the greater number of men dying by suicide than women!
In today‘s world of advancements in possibly every facet of life, the responsibility on an individual to prove one’s worth increases tremendously. With the sudden surge of social media over the last decade, the social connections have increased which puts the individual in a constant limelight, as a result of which he/she has a fear of constantly being judged. The individual is not burdened by the thought of failing his own expectations, he dread failing others. Suicide, I believe, is more of a social affair than personal because it involves the society and what it thinks of the individual. But both men and women have their share of responsibilities and failures. On one hand, where man is burdened with the responsibility of earning the bread and butter to feed his family and play the role of a son, a husband and a father to perfection, the woman is under the baggage of being a good home maker- which includes the role of a wife, a mother, and many a times – she is the bread earner of the family. But failures at playing these roles hit both of them alike. Heart break shatters both hearts. But facts and figures quote that number of men committing suicide is greater than that by women. From where comes the difference then?
There have been many reasons cited for the difference in numbers. Some research says women tend to use less fatal weapons like drug overdose, while men shows strong intent by opting for weapons like guns or hanging by rope. Some sources quote a paradox, saying that women attempts more suicide, but more men die because of less number of failed attempts in men.
Whatever the reason may be, I could not help but think of the psychological differences in the two sexes. While women are more social and tend to share their predicaments with trusted ones, men are unable to do so because of their reserved nature. They never encourage the idea of taking professional help, thinking they will be able to handle it. I am not saying, dear men, you cannot handle it. But you need to draw a line between depressing thoughts and suicidal thoughts. If ever you feel you are more into the latter, seek professional help because, no matter you never feel the need of it, your family does. Same goes for you, dear ladies, because the aim here is not to decrease the gender bias – it is to completely destroy the demon.
Coming to the end, there is a dire need to decrease the rates of suicides everywhere irrespective of geographical location or gender. Nothing in this world is worth taking your own life for. Seek medical help if you think you need it. Talk through matters with your near and dear ones.
Success and failures, heartbreaks and ignominy are parts of your life – remember; only a PART – they are not your whole life.
Nothing in this world is worth taking your own life for- it might be worth fighting for.
So let’s fight and not die.